Tips for Emotional Resilience

I know my blog is called "Subete no mono" which means "Everything", but I am going to continue on the mental health subject for awhile. If you read the description it does claim that my blog is about whatever is on my mind, so still eventually I will get to everything. Right now my mind is focused on talking about mental health, so let's continue on that. Tonight I am talking about Emotional Resilience.

What are some tips on how to be emotionally resilient?

Focus on what you can control, not what's out of your control: Don't focus on the things out of your hands. For example: you cannot control the people around you. They make their own decisions, so don't cause yourself anxiety because of them. Your main focus is yourself; you can control your own decisions.

Use events as learning experiences: Be flexible and open-minded. Don't let things of the past consume you. Learn from them and move on. Don't worry, I'm still working on this one myself, and I'm sure I'll talk about some of these events later on.

Alter your perceptions: A very awesome quote that my counselors told me was by a man from 1 A.D. named Epictetus. He stated, "It is not events which disturb us, but our view of those events." Events don't control us, our view of them does. Change our views and we can regain control. Try to find the good in a bad situation.

Limit the hostility factor: Negativity and anger is more harmful to yourself than anyone else. Try to avoid negative focus.

Accept limitations: We aren't perfect. None of us are. Accept this and you will make your life a whole lot easier. We can only strive to be the best we can be.

Develop compassion: Resist the need to be critical. Choose being kind of being right. Believe, this works out for everyone.

Develop good self-care habits: Take care of the needs of your mind, body, and spirit. Eat well, exercise, get sleep, take breaks from work, etc. Set the limits you need, prioritize, and delegate. You need to take care of yourself. One thing I learned is that your mood can be affected by your physical health and mental health and spirituality. It's all connected. It's all important.

Don't isolate yourself: I fall into this a lot. When I am depressed I tend to isolate myself and it only ever makes things worse. As God said in the book of Genesis, we are not made to be alone, so stop trying!

Look for the humor in things: Life is too serious to be taken too seriously! So lighten up and enjoy things!

 These sharks are funny. :) Laugh a little.

Develop mindfulness: This is the last on my list. Learn to live in the present. Don't live in the past. Watch your thoughts an respond to them in a positive manner. How can you respond to negative self-talk? That's something for another day, so stay tuned. ;)